{"id":13562,"date":"2025-05-10T11:30:39","date_gmt":"2025-05-10T18:30:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/mattfife.com\/?p=13562"},"modified":"2025-02-23T11:37:12","modified_gmt":"2025-02-23T18:37:12","slug":"flirting-is-a-learned-skill","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mattfife.com\/?p=13562","title":{"rendered":"Flirting is a learned skill"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>Bad at flirting with others? You may not be alone &#8211; only 28% of people realize when they are being flirted with. Women were especially bad at accurately detecting male flirting (only seeing it 18% of the time). <\/p>\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\">\n<figure class=\"aligncenter size-full\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"612\" height=\"408\" data-attachment-id=\"13563\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/mattfife.com\/?attachment_id=13563\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/mattfife.com\/wp-content\/themes\/mattTheme\/headerimgs\/2025\/02\/istockphoto-1352096030-612x612-1.jpg?fit=612%2C408&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"612,408\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;credit&quot;:&quot;Getty Images\/iStockphoto&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;caption&quot;:&quot;Attractive young couple in love sitting at the cafe table outdoors, drinking coffee&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;copyright&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0&quot;,&quot;title&quot;:&quot;&quot;,&quot;orientation&quot;:&quot;0&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"istockphoto-1352096030-612&amp;#215;612\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"&lt;p&gt;Attractive young couple in love sitting at the cafe table outdoors, drinking coffee&lt;\/p&gt;\n\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/mattfife.com\/wp-content\/themes\/mattTheme\/headerimgs\/2025\/02\/istockphoto-1352096030-612x612-1.jpg?fit=612%2C408&amp;ssl=1\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/mattfife.com\/wp-content\/themes\/mattTheme\/headerimgs\/2025\/02\/istockphoto-1352096030-612x612-1.jpg?resize=612%2C408&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-13563\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/mattfife.com\/wp-content\/themes\/mattTheme\/headerimgs\/2025\/02\/istockphoto-1352096030-612x612-1.jpg?w=612&amp;ssl=1 612w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/mattfife.com\/wp-content\/themes\/mattTheme\/headerimgs\/2025\/02\/istockphoto-1352096030-612x612-1.jpg?resize=300%2C200&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/mattfife.com\/wp-content\/themes\/mattTheme\/headerimgs\/2025\/02\/istockphoto-1352096030-612x612-1.jpg?resize=405%2C270&amp;ssl=1 405w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 612px) 100vw, 612px\" \/><figcaption class=\"wp-element-caption\">Attractive young couple in love sitting at the cafe table outdoors, drinking coffee<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n\n\n<p>It turns out flirting isn&#8217;t innate, it can be learned. Psychology Today tells you about the science and even gives you some fun homework.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Women flirted more effectively when they used physical contact and didn\u2019t use hugs or\u00a0humor\u00a0because those suggested more of a friendly (vs. romantic) intention. <\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Men were most effective when they focused on having good conversations, giving compliments, and using humor.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>77 percent of men perceived a specific expression\u2014head tilted to the side and slightly downward, eyes forward, with a slight smile\u2014as flirtatious<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Speed-dating studies found that having an expansive body posture\u2014such as taking up more physical space with a wider stance and having your arms open and out to the side (vs. crossed over your body) made both sexes appear more desirable.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>In a dating context, the easiest way partners can show responsiveness is through being a good listener. Do this by facing the other person, maintaining eye contact, nodding, giving good facial expressions, asking follow-up questions, and giving your thoughts. Showing sincere interest can be extremely attractive<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Links:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><a href=\"https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/us\/blog\/the-psychology-of-relationships\/202404\/the-science-of-flirting\">https:\/\/www.psychologytoday.com\/us\/blog\/the-psychology-of-relationships\/202404\/the-science-of-flirting<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Bad at flirting with others? You may not be alone &#8211; only 28% of people realize when they are being flirted with. Women were especially bad at accurately detecting male flirting (only seeing it 18% of the time). It turns out flirting isn&#8217;t innate, it can be learned. Psychology Today tells you about the science and even gives you some fun homework. 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