Bad at flirting with others? You may not be alone – only 28% of people realize when they are being flirted with. Women were especially bad at accurately detecting male flirting (only seeing it 18% of the time).

It turns out flirting isn’t innate, it can be learned. Psychology Today tells you about the science and even gives you some fun homework.

• Women flirted more effectively when they used physical contact and didn’t use hugs or humor because those suggested more of a friendly (vs. romantic) intention.
• Men were most effective when they focused on having good conversations, giving compliments, and using humor.
• 77 percent of men perceived a specific expression—head tilted to the side and slightly downward, eyes forward, with a slight smile—as flirtatious
• Speed-dating studies found that having an expansive body posture—such as taking up more physical space with a wider stance and having your arms open and out to the side (vs. crossed over your body) made both sexes appear more desirable.
• In a dating context, the easiest way partners can show responsiveness is through being a good listener. Do this by facing the other person, maintaining eye contact, nodding, giving good facial expressions, asking follow-up questions, and giving your thoughts. Showing sincere interest can be extremely attractive

Links:

• https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-psychology-of-relationships/202404/the-science-of-flirting